Learn Valuable Sales Lessons From Your Failures

“Well, the buyers were just liars.”

I was riding Amtrak from NYC to Boston when a cell-phone toting sales person sitting in the row of seats behind me uttered this deathless couplet.It was the last day of the sales month and my fellow passenger, who I will call Jon, clearly was attempting to rationalize his failure to close a much-needed piece of business to one of his bosses.Jon’s unintentional verse was almost Shakespearean in the tale of drama, treachery and tragedy that unfolded in just six short words. It combined a scathing indictment of the fecklessness of the prospective customer with a transparent attempt by Jon to shed any responsibility for his obvious failure to win an order that he had no doubt forecast with a high degree of certainty.How often have you been caught in this trap, where you refused to face reality and attempted to defend the indefensible? It’s like you’re furiously treading water in the middle of a deep swimming pool, your legs are cramping and you’re having a hard time keeping your head above the water. Your manager is standing on the deck, ready to throw you a life preserver. But, as you sink beneath the surface, you wave her off, and tell her that you’re fine and there’s nothing to worry about.It’s been my experience that the intensity of the vociferousness with which a salesperson defends their actions with a particular account, or refuses to take responsibility for them, by placing blame on the buyer is usually in inverse proportion to their level of understanding of their prospects’ intentions.The fact is that salespeople who don’t understand what the prospect is going to do, and when they are going to do it, don't have a good understanding of what the prospect needs. They haven’t asked the right discovery questions to fully understand the customer’s requirements. Consequently, they don’t have a handle on the value they need to deliver to help the prospect move through the completion of their decision making process. Which means that they haven’t earned the trust that entitles them to ask for specific commitments to action from the buyer.In situations like these, the prospect doesn’t have time to waste, so they'll keep moving forward with your competitors and leave you behind. Slowly sinking.If you find yourself stuck in an uncomfortable position like this, it’s important for you to stop denying reality and take responsibility for being out of sync and lagging behind the prospect. It may be too late to recover with this deal, but you can learn sales lessons to apply to future opportunities.Ask for the prospect’s helpDon’t be reluctant to ask your prospects to help you understand their requirements. It doesn’t help you or them for you to act like you understand what they’re talking about, if you actually don’t. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Don’t hesitate to ask them to clarify their answers or provide more detail.While prospects may prefer to deal with more knowledgeable sales reps, the fact is that at one point in our careers we were all new and inexperienced. I have found that customers are willing to help, if they sense an authentic desire on your part to learn. After all, by teaching you they know that they ultimately may be helping themselves.Make the prospect part of your teamSelling is not something you do to a prospect. It’s a collaborative process and a team effort. One of the most essential members of your sales team is your prospect. For a team to succeed every player has to fully understand the role they play on the team. Your prospect has to be fully informed about the role they are playing and the expectations you have for their performance in order for the team to achieve its goals. This means that you have to be in the position, in terms of trust and credibility, to ask for their commitment to take specific actions.Qualify and re-qualify the prospectIt is essential to qualify, and continually re-qualify, your prospect as they move through their buying process. It is not unusual for prospects to learn new information during their buying process that can fundamentally change their requirements. This means revisiting hard questions about your value and suitability for their needs, their budget and their timeframe for making a decision.If you are fully in sync with a prospect on their requirements and have been delivering value to them throughout their buying process, then you should never find yourself in a position where you don’t know what they’re going to do next.I only heard the last line of the conversation between Jon and his boss, who I’ll call Tracy. But I can easily imagine how the first part of their conversation went:“Hey, Tracy. This is Jon.”“Jon.” Silence.“How’s it going?”Silence. Tracy was not going to make this easy for Jon.“Uh, so, Tracy, we just finished the meeting with Consolidated.”Silence. Tracy liked torturing salespeople with his silence.“Well, uh, it didn’t go as we hoped.”“So, what you’re saying is that you didn’t have a plan for the call? Just hope?”“No, no, I had a plan.”“Then what happened?”“They decided to defer their decision.”“For how long?”“They wouldn’t say.”“Couldn’t say? Or, wouldn’t say?”“Uh, well, I don’t know.”“Actually, Jon, it sounds like they have made their decision.”“No, not at all.”“Wasn’t it just last week that you were absolutely positive that you were going to close the Consolidated order this month?”“Well, the buyers were just liars.”